Saturday, November 2, 2013

How I told Amar I was pregnant

I always thought that the way I would tell my husband that I was pregnant would be in this big romantic and profound gesture. Maybe have a little gift at home wrapped in beautiful paper with a big bow and when he opens it, he sees tiny little shoes. Or, I sit him down at a candle lit dinner and tell him very gentle that he is going to be a father.

For those that know me, you know that just when there is an opportunity to have a great moment, I mess everything up and things get awkward real fast.

I am a very impatient person. I can't WAIT and plan things. If I planned something special for Amar, I burst and tell him as soon as I think of it. So, already there is no chance for dinner to be made. There is no chance for a thoughtful gesture. I'm just too impatient and well, crazy.

I was visiting my family in Canada when I found out. I told my sister in law that I think I might be pregnant and she offered to take me to the pharmacy and pick up a pregnant test. I felt like such a grown up.  I didn't tell Amar what I was doing because I thought I was just going through my overly dramatic phase. When the test came out positive, I was still not convinced. I tried to remember the episode where Rachel found out she was pregnant and whether or not there was such thing as a false-positive or if the error only happens the other way around.  So, I casually showed my sister in law, expecting her to tell me that it might be false but she let out a huge gasp, bursted into tears and started crying. Immediately. I froze and just stared at her. I knew Amar  was downstairs and I thought, this is it! This is the moment when the wife tells her husband she's pregnant!! I thought, how meaningful. How exciting. I am going to go through another milestone in my life. I felt so blessed. He is in the living room and that is the same place where he proposed to me. Excellent. But... I also didn't want to give him false hope. So, here is how it went:

Me: Amouri, I want to tell you something but I am not sure.
Amar: What?

That's how I did it.  I didn't say, habiby I'm pregnant, gently. I didn't tell Amar very sweetly that he is going to be a father. I told him that I think I am pregnant, but doubtful, so don't get to happy - and  I didn't even bother explaining that I took a pregnancy test.

Amar: What?
Me: I thought you would be excited!!!!
Amar: I don't understand, what's going on?
Me: I MIGHT BE. GOD, Amar is this how you react?? You can't even be happy!?!?

And I storm upstairs.

Amar thought I was just going through my paranoia stage. I am not that paranoid. I just assume things that others have as well. Like when you think you felt a bump in your armpit and you immediately assumed the worse, but it turned out to be an ingrown hair (my nurse couldn't stop laughing at that). Or, when you thought that you saw a red back spider but it turned out to be a beetle (Amar actually got really pissed off at me for that).

Anyway, AlhamdouAllah, things turned out great afterwards. We decided to go to my parents house right at that moment to tell them even though it was midnight. When we got to the house, my sister and my mom were in the bedroom and I went in to tell them. My mom was shocked (refer to my first post of how people reacted when I told them I was going to be a mom). When they came out to congratulate Amar, he looked at me and said "You told them already???" I completely forgot that he probably wanted us to tell them together.

And that's how its done.


  1. Wow what an amazing story!!!

    Lol this is so something I would do too hahah. I also imagine telling Yusuf in this sweet adorable meaningful way but I am way too open and I wouldn't be able to hold it in!! (I thought I was the only one who thought of these things.) Your story made me so happy lol. It's so amazing you were home when you found out you got the chance to tell your family straight away and share the joy. Lol. Ps. You and Amar are so cute mashallah. :)

  2. Mimi, I LOVE your blog!! You gave me goosebumps when you described how you and your sister in law found out you were pregnant!

  3. I'm always jealous of people who have romance movie moment in their lives. Mine never seem to work out like that lol

  4. Such a great story:) Nice that you shared this with us.

  5. Fantastic story! Bless patient husbands!! Next time we meet up we will have to compare armpit lump stories ;)